I was asked recently why the idea of watching my wife fuck another guy or guys turns me on. I figured I’d try to talk about the themes here briefly since I’m not sure I really got to the heart of it in my response to this particular follower.
One of the things that really gets me going is the idea of seeing my wife completely in lust. To completely let herself go and indulge in sexual abandon. It’s the idea of unleashing all of that erotic potential that might be confined because of inhibition and guilt.
It’s the idea of seeing her indulge in her lust completely and seeing her in a more raw state, in the way she might be if she weren’t your wife, or how she was before you were married.
This gets even more intense because it is with another guy. You see how she might react to another guy and cock, what different things she might do or just the way she’d first fuck someone, or how she’d fuck someone if it were just a hormone induced lust-fuck.
Seeing your wife in this different way is a powerful fantasy for me.
While I know I satisfy my wife quite well there’s an idea of her being the complete focus and ensuring that she is completely sexually satisfied.
Anyone who has begun to play with toys and has done a DP with you and the toy knows that it can produce some powerful sensations and orgasms. Or even if she’s sucking on your fingers while you pound her from behind that type of stimulation certainly conjures up some ideas.
Of course, a lot of this is tied up with our brains, which is perhaps our largest erotic organ.
Part of the reason those sensations of having more than one cock at the same time are so intense is that they are taboo, even more so because you’re in a relationship.
So the idea that your wife is doing these taboo things is an incredible mind-fuck. And if I’ve learned anything recently it’s that women experience something similar. I don’t know if it’s exactly the same but I know that the thoughts we men have aren’t that far off from those of our spouses or significant others.
I have to believe that she’s also getting a heightened amount of pleasure thinking of it being two real men. That she’s actually getting fucked by two guys at the same time. Even more erotic if it’s your husband and a stud.
So the taboo of it all probably adds to how erotic it feels. When you feel the dildo in her pussy while you fuck her ass and she’s also asking if you can feel it, I think there’s a massive amount of taboo and pleasure involved at the same time.
Oddly, for me this is also about that connection between the husband and wife. When you tell her that you can feel the ridges of the dildo in her pussy while you fuck her ass, you both moan and writhe. It’s that interplay that really gets you going.
It’s why I fantasize about my wife looking me in the eyes while she slides her lips down another cock and shows me how she can deepthroat another cock. It’s why I love the idea of her sucking me when the stud first slides into her pussy, so I can see the look on her face, so we can make that kind of eye contact and have that connection.
If it were to happen, I think it would need to be a feedback loop. I’d get off on seeing her let go (sexual abandon) and she’d get off seeing me get off and seeing her get off would get me off even more, so on and so forth.
I admit that there’s a bit of a submissive component in it for me. I’m not talking the extreme stuff that some have but to a lesser extent I do think there’s a shade of submission here.
I like the idea that she craves another cock. I like the idea of her getting a cock that is bigger and lasts longer. I like the idea of her doing a bit of erotic teasing. I’m not saying I want to be shut out but it’s intense to think of your wife saying some of these things.
“Oh, it’s so good to suck on a cock for a long time. You usually cum long before this baby.”
I know this isn’t for everyone but that’s what turns my crank and I won’t deny it.
I think part of that is because I’m in control in so many other parts of my life. Sounds trite but I think that’s true.
One of the things for me is that it’s all positive. I don’t get off on the idea of calling my wife a bitch or having guys ‘abuse’ her. If she wants to give herself over to a guy or guys, that is extremely hot, but only if SHE gets off on it.
Those instances where the guys are taking advantage of a wife at her expense does not turn me on in the slightest. It’s about HER pleasure and what SHE wants. That might be to be treated roughly by a stud or studs but it would be her choice and it would always result in her having multiple orgasms.
The other things here is that this isn’t something you’d want to always do. This is like a special event. And your sex outside of it would and should still be extremely awesome.
Home cooking is great but it’s fun to dine at a five-star restaurant from time to time.
I’m still not sure I’ve captured it all here and I’d love to hear from others, particularly women so I can get a better understanding of how my wife might be thinking about things and working through my fantasy (so don’t be shy with the ask button ladies.)