His Babygirl Lucy

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?  

Real life is actually doing the things that you dream of.  I’ve only done some of them so far and I love them. But I am sure there will be some that I don’t.  We will just discuss it after and it might not happen again.  It might though as well.  If it is a silly reason why I don’t like it.

Now having said that, I can look at something.. a video, a picture, etc. and think that’s really cool.  Let’s try that.  But in reality, if we tried it I might be like “oh no that doesn’t work”.  Fantasy is just that.  It’s fantasy.  You think of something happening but in the real life you might not want it happening.

I see bruises on people all the time and they are proud of it.  For me, they are fantasy I might think they are neat but I don’t want them.  I might even see a video on how they got them but not actually want that to happen to me.

Lucy,

his babygirl

I wanted to take a moment and express my sincere appreciation and shock to the fact that you are all reading my blog.  I’m so glad that you are hear.  Please feel free to talk with me or ask me anything.  I’ll do my best to answer.

Lucy

his babygirl

Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

This is a hard one to answer.  I can’t really say that I was looking for either kink or BDSM.  I was taught to repress those feelings at an early age.  I was looking to be accepted for who I was.  For what I wanted.  Not to be judged about it.  I finally found it in this area.

I always felt like I wasn’t in the right century.  I loved the ’50s.  I loved the dynamics of a complete family that is at home.  The mother taking care of the kids.  The man taking charge of the family life as well as his woman.  I get that in the relationship I am in now. 

In the relationship I am currently in I am loved beyond concept of any I have known before.  I am cherished, protected and treasured.  I am supported in all that I do.  And yes, I am punished if I do something that wasn’t right.  But it allows me to be who I am deep inside. 

I give up the right to make the final decision but I have a right to voice my opinion.  This works for me because I truly hate making decisions.  I get all stressed out about them.  I get to be free and just be me.  I get to focus on making those cherished ones around me happy and thereby me happy as well.  If I want to go outside and play in the snow or color with my children, I can let that inner me be free to do so.  I don’t have to be the grown up in the situation but yet I am still grown up.

We are still new in our relationship but already I am not restricted into being not completely me.  I can express what I want and need without worrying of being judged and that truly works for me.  For the first time in my life, I feel free to be me… kinks and all.  Not just part of me.

I only look forward to where it continues.
Lucyhis babygirl

Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had.  If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

I think most everything that we do have a sense of humor in it.  We both think its important to laugh.  We learn new things and some we cringe out and find they aren’t for us.  But other things we are so joyful to know that finally we found someone who want the same thing. 

No specific thing to say here.

Aspects of kink/BDSM, I find funny would have to be that there are so many people out there that take it too seriously.  There are kinks that I find funny but never judge another for them.  To me its just is that way.

Lucy, his babygirl